January 20, 2015
Well, when I started SL on January 24, 2009, it was part of a master’s level class in library science so I interacted with people as part of a classroom. After the class ended, I did hunts, created a museum, made stuff, started breedables, changed the museum to an animal preserve — but I rarely interacted with people. On hunts, you go to a bunch of stores, follow hints and find stuff for free. The store owners hope that the hunters will look around and buy stuff or at least post images of what they found on blogs or flickr to bring buying customers in. Occasionally on hunts people would ask me if I had found something yet or vice versa but they were always one-time conversations. I did have a guy hit on me virtually once — surprised me so much, I left the place right away and then logged off. I enjoyed SL on my own for years playing it as if it was solitary game, like most computer games that I’d buy except it was free (unless I bought money inworld to buy stuff).
Then I put a Kittycats cat breedable up for auction on January 1, 2015. It was my first auction to sell a cat. Jhanelle Bonde bought that kitty. I think it was the first auction she had ever attended too. I didn’t realize it at the time but she became a seismic shift in how I would experience Second Life. I’d never been social in Second Life once my class ended but Jhan is a very social person. She pulled me out of my shell.
This is Petite RoxySable that I put up for auction on New Year’s Day. After Jhanelle bought her, she renamed her Jeanne. For kittycats folks, here are Jeanne’s stats
After Jhan bought Jeanne, as a newbie breeder, Jhan would IM me questions about breeding. It wasn’t too long before we started hanging out together and became friends. Jhan is pretty smart and outgoing and it wasn’t long before she became known as a top breeder. She had a husband and children in Second Life and a bunch of friends and was very used to interacting with people.
She was my first real friend in SL. I never really talked with anyone before then and it really changes the SL experience once you start socializing into something more real instead of just a game. I never did the voice thing but I’m a fast typer so we would chat in type. We’d talk about SL, breeding cats and eventually our RL lives.
I will always always appreciate Jhanelle becoming my bestie and teaching me how to be friends in SL. It just opened up a whole new world. Also after I quit my job because my mom’s cancer meds were affecting her so she needed someone around, SL allowed me to have a social life even though I have to stay home all the time. Really totally saved my sanity.
The funny thing about playing alone for 6 years and then making one new friend is that after that suddenly I started making other friends. It changed everything.
Jhanelle is on the right. She invited me to her cattery when she first built it.
Note: Although I’ve made some editorial changes, the bulk of this was originally posted on September 6, 2015 on Hold on a Second. I am slowly moving my older blog posts over because recently Google closed Google Plus so I thought I better back up that old BlogSpot blog just in case.